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Is Your Life An Illusion?

A Sermon Delivered by Rev. Marlin Lavanhar, Senior Minister
At All Souls Unitarian Church in Tulsa, OK
on December 9, 2007

One of my teachers, Jack Kornfield, who is a Buddhist, tells of a time, some years ago, when he and his wife were traveling in India.  They were on a mountaintop studying with a great yogi and meditation master, when his wife had a series of visions and dreams that came to her about death.  The most vivid was about the death of her brother.  Jack kept trying to reassure her that at times, in meditation, we face death and images of death come naturally – for us to learn about our own life.  But unfortunately he was wrong.  Ten days later a telegram arrived saying that her brother Paul had died – he had committed suicide.  It was a great tragedy.  And then when they looked at the telegram through their tears, they noticed that the day of his death was the day she had seen his death.  And the way that he had died was the way that she had seen it.

We've all heard these kinds of stories.  We’ve probably heard stories of identical twins being able to feel and know things about each other across hundreds of miles with no formal communication.  We hear of mothers sensing something happening with their children even when they are far out of sight.  And we hear of countless coincidences that make us wonder if we are connected on a level so subtle that the only way we can explain it is to say we are connected in spirit.

Kornfield says, “The reason we hear these kinds of stories is because they're true.”  He goes on to say, “We are fundamentally connected in spirit and consciousness.  And yes, we may live in the optical illusion of separateness, as Einstein said, but the reality is that we are connected.  And if it can happen from here in the US all the way to a mountaintop in India, and in so many other times that you've heard about, then this is a phenomenon worth paying some attention to.”

Eastern religions, like Buddhism and Hinduism teach that there is an underlying unity of all creation.  In these traditions there is a sense that you and I might think we are separate beings, but in reality we are all one with each other and with everything around us.  Like Einstein, they tell us our sense of separateness is just an illusion.  The classic metaphor used in the East to describe this unity is that we are all like raindrops that are finding our way back to the great ocean from whence we’ve come.  The ocean represents both our true source and our destiny.  The raindrops are our imagined state of consciousness, because in fact, we are told, we’ve never really left the ocean – it’s all an illusion.

In other words, during this life, in which we have consciousness, we are led to think we’re independent, individual and unique, but in reality we are all made of (and part of) the same substance.  That means whatever I do to hurt you, or to hurt the earth, really affects me too.

The spiritual path in the Eastern traditions is presented as a journey to discover our unity and interconnectedness with all that exists.  You may know the old joke: what did the Buddhist monk say to the hotdog vendor in New York City?  “Please make me one with everything.”  Mystics from the east and west all speak of an underlying unity of existence.  A mystical experience is typically described as a timeless experience of feeling connected with everything and everyone.  You may have had such an experience at some point in your life.

It’s been interesting over the last few decades, as scientists have begun to create theories that seem to be pointing in the same general direction as the mystics and theologians.  In subatomic physics we hear of experiments in which a particle is separated and placed on different sides of the country and when a change occurs in one particle, at the very same instant, the other particle is observed making the same change, 3000 miles away.  Such experiments speak to a degree of connectedness on a subatomic level that is still hard to imagine, and it has challenged much of what scientists thought they knew about matter and energy.  It’s as if there is some form of immediate communication that can occur between the halves of the particle, no matter how far apart they might be.  Although scientists do not describe it as communication, they speak of symmetrical and asymmetrical internal relations and other layers of connectedness.

The point is, science has been discovering subtle layers of connectedness that certainly make room for the possibility that some of the phenomena described by mystics and theologians may someday have a scientific explanation.  But whether it ever becomes explainable or not, the theories being uncovered by quantum mechanics certainly offer us a reason for humility about what we think we know and don’t know.  They also prompt us to keep an open mind when it comes to certain phenomena that have historically been described as spiritual or even paranormal.

In Hindu mythology, we are told that the heavens of the god Indra contain a net of pearls.

Each pearl is reflected in its neighbor so that the whole universe is mirrored in each pearl.  This ancient mythology is likened by some to the nature of a hologram.  Holograms, as I’m sure you know, are 3-dimensional pictorial images; you probably have one on your credit card.  But did you know that if you take a holographic photographic plate and crack it, cut it or divide into tiny little pieces, in each piece you will still be able view the entire picture of the hologram?  The totality of the image can be found in each piece.  Just like in the ancient story of Indra’s net of pearls, where the image of the entire universe can be found in each pearl, some scientists have theorized that the universe may be constructed like a hologram.  Each little piece of existence may contain within it the whole of existence.

We see this in DNA when it comes to biological cloning.  In cloning we’re told that a single cell of a living being can be implanted into a female egg and then the egg can be replaced in the womb, and it has the potential to reproduce a biological copy of the original donor.  The nature of DNA may give us a clue as to how the universe is constructed.

Scientists may someday complete their long journey into the discovery of things and when they eventually climb over that final peak and peer over the top of the last mountain which presents the face of all reality, they might just find the mystics and the theologians have been sitting there, all along, waiting for them.  If we imagine, with the scientists, that the world was created in a big bang, then all of the makings of all that exists has been around from that very first moment.  And it has simply been forming and reforming, shaping and reshaping itself ever since.  As my colleague Forrest Church likes to say, “The world was pregnant with you and me from the moment this all began.” 

Science tells us that some of the cells in our bodies are the very same cells that were once in dinosaurs.  And we know that the hydrogen which make up much of our bodies were once in stars.  The big bang theory seems to fit well with the metaphor of the ocean.  Apparently we all originate from one unified source, and, at least on that level, we are all connected in substance.  When Jesus said, “I and the father are one” (John 10:30) might he have been speaking like a mystic?  Might he have been explaining that all of us are one in substance with each other and with the Divine – rather than trying to say that he was himself unique?

A more important question for me is: what kind of ethic derives from these understandings of the nature of our existence?  As I mentioned earlier, my subject today was chosen for me by the winner of our auction here at the church Mona Pittenger.  I was asked to prepare a message on the growing understanding of human consciousness.  So I read books by philosopher Ken Wilbur.  I studied the works of Hindu Vedanta and holographic science.  I read Paul Davies and the writings of the mystics of many religions.  As I tried to imagine how I could ever synthesize the various philosophies, and their many nuances, I realized that I would never be able to do it satisfactorily in 20 minutes.  But when I considered what was most important, I realized that what matters most is how these ideas lead one to act.  In fact, what we do with what we believe is the true test of our beliefs and religion anyway.

Here in this church we have people with many different beliefs about the nature of God and existence.  We have some who don’t find the idea of God useful at all.  But in the end, what really matters is this: How does a person treat him or her self?  How does a person treat others?  How does a person treat the earth we live on?  As far as I can tell, the ethic that emerges out of the concept of an underlying unity of all creation is born of the idea that whatever we do to others we also do to ourselves.  And whatever we do to ourselves, we ultimately do to the world.

Gandhi said, “I believe in the unity of all that lives and therefore I believe that if one person gains the whole world gains; if one person fails the whole world fails to that extent”  We are fundamentally connected and that gives us good reason to forgive.  It gives us a great reason to love our neighbors, to help strangers, to cloth the naked, feed the hungry and free the captives. 

Of course, we live in a selfish era in so many ways.  And the idea of interconnectedness encourages us not only to help others, and to care for the planet, but it also encourages us to take good care of ourselves.  Because when we thrive, the whole world benefits.  And when we, or anyone among us fails, we all fail to that extent.

The people who really get this concept live generously and courageously.  But it takes a fine balance.  Author John Tarrant explains this better than anyone I know.  He says we need to balance our spirit and our soul if we are to live well.  For him, spirit includes the kinds of things I’ve been discussing.  Our understanding of God and consciousness and unity – these are spiritual concepts in the way John Tarrant explains it.  These are ways of understanding ultimate reality and our eternal nature.  Our spirit is that part of us that never dies.  It goes on living eternally. 

Our soul, on the other hand, is that part of us that does die.  The soulful part of our life is the part that is not eternal, but that lives in time.  It includes the daily joys and indignities of life.  The soul is the poetic part of our life.  The smells and tastes, the stress, the pain and the ecstasy – these parts of life are real too.

Tarrant explains that both spirit and soul are important, but he says that some people live too much in the spirit.  These are people who tend to emphasize life’s unity and perfection and they tend to be addicted to feelings of spiritual transcendence.  These are people who, when someone is in pain, they can seem aloof and uncaring.  They may say, “It all happens for a reason,” a belief that, even if it is true in an ultimate sense, gives little comfort in the here and now to someone in grief.  They might say things like, “Have faith, there’s a bigger plan that you just don’t understand right now.”  And they say these things without acknowledging the depth of suffering the person they are talking to is feeling in that moment in their soul.  That is because for people who live too much in the spirit, the pains of this world are seen as temporary and illusionary.  Therefore, these people can often seem not that compassionate or loving or realistic about the very real, daily level of our existence. 

On the other side, people who are out of balance with too much soul, and not enough spirit, are the ones who don’t have a spiritual perspective to help broaden the context of this life and its suffering.  These are people who are facing the highs and lows and tragedies of life without having a worldview other than a completely materialistic perspective.  Tarrant makes the case that we each need to have a balance of soul and spirit.

How does this figure into what I’ve been speaking of today?  Because we can have a strong belief in the underlying unity and connectedness of all existence.  We can believe that our individual natures are just an illusion.  But we cannot live each moment of our lives looking at the world from that perspective.  Even the mystics speak of having an experience of oneness from which they came to understand reality, and how it shaped their way of being in the world.  Yet they did not, nor could they, live their lives each moment with that level of intensity.  Neither can you and I.

We need to balance a perspective of ultimate reality with a perspective of daily reality.  Because we are going to pass by homeless people on the streets whom we cannot help.  We are going to hear of hunger around the country and around the world.  We are going to know, or even experience, domestic abuse and violence.  The wars and torture, addiction and murder and genocide will continue to ravage our brothers and sisters.  If we’re paying attention at all we will constantly see how deep the fangs of injustice go into the real flesh of real people on this earth everyday.  We will see how the earth is being harmed and abused at an alarming rate.  If all we could feel is how each of these acts is a kind of rape of our own sacred heart, we’d probably go insane and be of no use to anyone.

And yet, if we allow ourselves to get too far removed from this reality, we risk perpetuating it and losing our humanity altogether.  So we need to find a balance that allows us to touch life’s supreme joy and still make a positive difference.  The best road I know is to have a personal spiritual practice and a community of faith and action like All Souls.  I realize that we usually think of mystics as people who live in monasteries, or as people who devote their entire lives to religion.  Yet today everyone can follow a mystical spiritual path. 

Caroline Myss says we can all be mystics without monasteries.  And she says the world needs people who have a mystical worldview who will also be deeply engaged in the politics and problems of this world.  There are too many people who get addicted to spiritual transcendence and they use it like a drug to escape reality.  And there are too many others who live as activists, who have no spiritual practice and these people often become angry and burnt out because they don’t have ways and worldviews that rejuvenate them.

So I’ll end with six simple steps for developing a mystical spiritual practice.  I learned these from Andrew Harvey: 

First, realize the great longing you have in you for love and for union with the divine.

Second, make a list of everything you are grateful for, and come to know them as

blessings.

Third, read the great mystics like Rumi and Hafiz, Kabir, Saint Teresa of Avila, Meister

Eckhart and even the contemporary ones like Mary Oliver.

Fourth, pray and meditate at least 20 minutes in the morning and at night.

Fifth, pay attention to your dreams.

Sixth, do service.  Serving others helps to wear down your ego and shows you the divinity

in others.

The love and power of the saints and mystics can be cultivated in us too.  When we begin to cultivate it, we begin to act out of a sense of divine love for all.  May you become a mystic without a monastery.  May science and religion continue to inform and understand one another.

And may all the people of this world someday come to know and to cherish that we are one!

            Amen.

 

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